Saturday, February 6, 2016
It's February and LOVE is in the air! The Frenzied SLPs know that sometimes love hurts and many times when we love our jobs and clients/students as much as we do, it can sometimes result in a bit of pain on our end. So this Frenzied Link Up we are turning the "lovey dovey" feelings of St. Valentine's day upside down and sharing our "Love Hurts" stories from the lens of the SLP.
My story begins many many years ago. I had been practicing speech pathology for about 5 years at this time, when I started a new job. The first day on the job, I was raring and ready to go. I was eager to prove myself and show this school they made the best hire choice. So when I walked into the classroom to bring a little friend back to the speech therapy room, I was not at all worried when the classroom teacher cautioned me regarding his behaviors. I was no longer the green SLP I was out of graduate school. No. I was the savvy SLP, who had spent the last 5 years reading and researching various disorders and disabilities. I was the energetic SLP who was not afraid to tackle any new challenge. This was not my first rodeo. I knew I "had this".
My new friend and I walked down the hallway to my therapy room and began play therapy without incident. My confidence was building by the second. I was going to conquer the world, or at least this caseload. I was going to have all my non-verbal students talking within days of meeting me through my sheer determination and fun loving attitude. Looking back I can see I had very high hopes that were quite unrealistic, but in the time, well, like I said, I thought "I had this".
Then something amazing happened. Something wonderful. Humiliating, but wonderful. As I was confidently playing on the floor with my new friend, I leaned forward to pick up a car. Without skipping a beat, my new pal drove a race car in his right hand while he punched me in the eye with his left. He didn't look up. He didn't say a word. In fact, I almost wasn't sure it actually happened, until my eye started to water. Oh, it happened all right. My right eye was beginning to swell.
In that moment I learned a lesson that has stayed with me for the rest of my life. I broke a cardinal rule when I leaned forward and got too close to my new buddy. I entered his personal space bubble and I did it without knowing if he was comfortable or ready for such an intrusion. In time we became the best of friends and I loved his spunk and spark! But that day, my first day on the job, I had to suck up my wounded pride and take him back to his classroom with a red, puffy, swollen eye. Some of the best moments in my life have been moments such as this, moments when I have been a bit humbled.
So even though loving our job too much will sometimes result in a bit of pain, pain physically or pain to one's ego (Ha!), the lesson I want to pass on to you today is the very one this little guy taught me that day several years: never enter a child's personal space bubble without building a proper rapport first. I've never forgotten this lesson and in fact, it's helped me many many times over the last decade. I hope it helps you too!
I love my job. Sometimes love hurts and sometimes, as John Cougar Mellencamp says, it "hurts so good". This story, this lesson for me, was a good hurt and I'll always be grateful to my buddy for teaching me this lesson.
Have a tip or lesson you learned because #SLPLoveHurts? Feel free to comment below. (Please remember to keep all identifiable client information confidential)
Sunday, January 24, 2016
Today the Frenzied SLPs are linking up to bring you some of our favorite fun easy recipes for your frenzied days. My recipe is less of a recipe and more of a cheat make shift meal but here goes.
For the days I have no time whatsoever to cook or days like the past weekend, where I spend hours shoveling and had little or no energy for anything else, my crock pot becomes my most favorite kitchen appliance.
Easy Peasy Crock Pot Meatball Subs:
1) bag of frozen meatballs
2) 1-2 jars of tomato sauce (depending on how much you like. We use 2.)
3) provolone cheese (or cheese of your choice)
Directions: Throw the bag of frozen meatballs into a crock pot (on top of a spoonful or two of tomato sauce), and cover with tomato sauce. Set on high for 4 hours or low for 8 hours. Once done, add cheese and meatballs to rolls and voila', you have an easy peasy meatball sub!
Tip: We tend to make all the meatballs at once and just freeze smaller portions of what we have left so they too can be a quick meal at another time.
Sides: We like to add a quick Ceasar salad with this as a side using 1 head of romaine lettuce, some chopped/slices black olives, shredded Parmesan cheese, and some Ceasar dressing.
And that's it! A piping hot meal waiting for you when you are ready to sit down and eat!
Do you have a favorite crock pot meal for your frenzied days? Feel free to share below. I'm always looking for new recipes!!!
Sunday, November 8, 2015
The Frenzied SLPs are doing it again...another link up! This time we are showing our gratitude to you, our readers, for sticking with us on this linky journey. So, who wants to have a little fun? Well, if you have been following this link up, than you know already that we are giving away some awesome gift cards to TpT (who doesn't need speech materials?) and Starbucks (more importantly, who doesn't need some coffee?)!
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So what am I grateful for this Thanksgiving?
Well so much has happened in my family life over the last year but here are the top 5 things I'm thankful for:
1. Retirement!: Um...what? Retirement? Well actually I am very grateful that my husband officially retired from the military after 21 years of service this past February. Of course this means a lot of change, however, the best benefit (hands down) to myself and my children is that for my husband there will be NO MORE DEPLOYMENTS! Yahoo!!! (All the military spouses out there reading this know what a joyous celebration this is. Ha!)
2. Transitions!: Along with retirement came the need to transition from military life to civilian life, which equates to new jobs, a new home, new friends, new...well...everything! So, thanks be to God, my husband was offered a job he enjoys on the east coast, where we were able to relocate to be closer to our extended families as well.
3. Unemployment!: I know you are scratching your head on this one as well but the truth is, when we relocated, I had to close up shop. I had to close the doors to my private practice, which was always my dream, and head due east. Yet the joy I have been given from time with my children has been the most unexpected blessing of it all this year! I will never get that time back and I'm so grateful, I have had it with my two boys.
4. Sleepless Nights!: For over a year now, my youngest, who arrived in late September of 2014, has not slept through the night. He tends to wake up anywhere from 3-5 times a night and this sleep deprived mama was really struggling there for some time. But, I cannot say I didn't love the time I have had snuggling and cuddling with my little guy in the wee hours of the morning! Watching him nurse, or snuggle into me fills me up over and over again and I wouldn't change it for the world! (Picture above just for cuteness!!!)
5. New Horizons!: And lastly, I'm so grateful to have completed the transition to our new home, gotten my newest state speech license, and completed the paperwork to start up my business...again. So, the doors of my private practice are OFFICIALLY open once again!
What a great life I am blessed to live!!!!
So how about you? What are you grateful for this Thanksgiving? I'd love to know!
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Good luck and Happy Thanksgiving!
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Tuesday, November 3, 2015
What in the world is accidental learning? Well this is a term I like to use for the learning that occurs during play and highly motivating activities. As I just recently wrote a two part series on incidental teaching, I thought I'd also tackle one of my favorite types of learning that occurs naturally and without much planning.
Accidental learning is just that, it's unplanned. It occurs spontaneously, most often in play and more often than not as a response to the interest of a student/client. It happens when I am NOT currently targeting that particular skill, but with a simple model I can see it will benefit the student at hand. Accidental learning may occur at any time and in any place. Often times, I must illustrate to parents how they have fostered accidental learning as they feel they are only teaching their child in a structured environment. Yet, learning is a way of life. It occurs away from the desks and tables and out of sight of the chalkboards or dry erase boards.
So here are some of my favorite ways to facilitate some "accidental learning":
1. Grocery Store Shopping: The produce aisle is one of my FAVORITE places to facilitate accidental learning. You can talk about so many great cognitive concepts such as colors, shapes, sizes, vegetables vs. fruits, counting and one to one correspondence, number identification on price tags, etc. So many great concepts can be introduced and over time learned!
2. Playground: How great is the playground for accidental learning? Our children can learn social skills such as taking turns, waiting our turn, waiting in lines (climbing up and down slides), introducing self and asking to join in play, etc. When watching children play, we can see they are learning how to play cooperatively, follow each other's leads and directions, develop pretend play skills, etc. Oh what a wonderful place the playground is! Be sure to help your students or own children if you know they struggle with social skills. Actually teach them the things to say in real time so they have a memory on which to base the use of particular social skills.
3. Library: Oh my goodness, what a TREASURE the public library is! So many libraries now have children's rooms with developmental toys as well as puppets and books. They offer great free programs such as story times, STEM educational events, puzzles, writing contests, super hero days, free movies (of which you can always find a book version within the library somewhere), etc. Some libraries offer free tutoring, e-readers, access to other technology. Don't discount your library! You can find information on thousands of topics for your students and own children. With simple book reading and re-reading your child's vocabulary can grow exponentially!
4. Busy Bags and Waiting Rooms: How often do we ask our children to wait?! In doctors offices, post office lines, restaurants, in traffic, etc. Sometimes our days are just spent waiting to complete the next errand. So why not use this time for some great accidental learning? Have you seen the busy bags ideas that are all over the internet? If you haven't, here is a link to my pinterest board with several of these great ideas some brilliant mothers and professionals have created. There are numerous ways to address early cognitive concepts as well as fine motor skills, sensory needs, language concepts, etc. So MUCH accidental learning can take place simply by making some of these busy bags with objects around your house (and head on over to the dollar store near you b/c you will find some great items to use)!
5. Family Reading Time: I know a fellow teacher who has "reading parties" with her own children. It's a great way to share a book together and is a wonderful way to learn new vocabulary, learn how to retell a story, and also see how much your children are understanding of what they are hearing by simply asking them questions. Depending on your children's ages, you can have them either write or draw a synopsis of the book after chapters or at the end of each book. It's a great way to prepare you children for book reports that will eventually be coming at school! It is a great activity that can easily be modified to use for middle and high school speech therapy sessions as well for our students who are really struggling with reading comprehension. What a great way to use academic curriculum!
6. Pretend play: Pretend play with your students or own children is a MUST! What great learning occurs here! Skills such as communication, social skills, development of narratives, cooperative play, problem solving, etc. will easily develop with little help. Simply have fun and you will see the learning without much help from you!!!!
Ok, so there you have it! These are my six (b/c five was too few) favorite ways to facilitate accidental learning! Feel free to share with parents as you counsel them or find ways to incorporate some of these activities with simple modifications into your therapy sessions.
Do you have a favorite way to facilitate "accidental learning"? If so, please share below!
Monday, October 26, 2015
It's time for another AWESOME Frenzied SLPs link up! Two weeks ago, I gave you some Halloween-themed ideas for articulation, and today I'll leave you with a few for language activities.
1. Books, books, and more books: Of course, one of my very favorite activities for language development is book reading. It's so great for introducing vocabulary, listening comprehension activities, Wh-question activities for recalling story details, story sequencing and retelling of stories. So naturally it would be #1 on my list. But what books to choose? Well I wrote a whole blog post on my favorite Halloween themed books. Check out the full post here!
2. Creepy Crawly Categories: Working on semantic mapping anyone? Here is a simple fun way to work on category item sorting/naming with a spider theme just in time for your Halloween fun! Check out more here!
3. Social Story: Trick or Treating! I made a simple social story for a few of my students who have social communication deficits and you can grab your copy here!
So these are just a few of my fun ways to use Halloween themed activities to work on language and social communication! What are yours?
Tuesday, October 20, 2015
When consulting with a mother of a child with Down Syndrome, she confided that she struggles with a very undesirable behavior the child exhibits. He tends to scream at the top of his lungs in quiet places. Therefore, taking her son to places such as the local library, her church, a restaurant or even a grocery store can be a very difficult trip for her. I introduced her to the idea of replacing the undesirable behavior with something more socially appropriate. But how do we do this?
Here are my basic rules when attempting to replace an undesirable behavior:
1. Find a behavior the child can already do. When replacing an undesirable behavior with something more socially appropriate, we do not want to spend time on trying to TEACH a new behavior if we have a perfectly acceptable behavior in something the child can already do.
For example, when I worked in the school setting, I had several PK students who wanted to climb on, hug or cuddle with teachers. Although a hug here and there is necessary and a great way to boost our little ones confidences, we must remember that there are certain times when this behavior just isn't acceptable. Circle time just doesn't work if everyone in the PK classroom wants to sit in the teacher's lap. So we attempted to replace this behavior with a quick "compliment and high five". This way each child was given individualized attention. The teacher or myself told each student something we really liked about their behavior that day (e.x. "Johnny, I really loved how you helped clean up the books earlier!") and they still received some physical contact with a "high five" before they were asked to sit on the floor. We began with something the students could do without spending valuable time teaching a new behavior.
2. Find something that motivates the child. Again, remember your goal is just to eliminate the undesirable behavior as quickly as possible. So to do this, we must find something that is MORE motivating than the current behavior. If this replacement behavior is NOT more motivating, than it will NOT stick! So really watch your students, know what makes them tick, and see what puts that light of excitement into their eyes.
For the little child with Down Syndrome above, he delighted in hearing his voice echo in quiet places. He also enjoyed the attention his mother gave him after each scream when she looked at him and told him "sh" or "no". So I noticed that he could use a pincer grasp to hold on to items AND he liked cool sounds. Therefore, I suggested his mother get him a quiet book with LOTs of pictures to pull from velcro patches. Each time he pulled a picture off the velcro, she was to give him quiet praise to feed his desire for parental attention. The fun velcro sound would still delight him, while it was much quieter than his screams. In addition, simple books such at these never run out of fun because you can simply return all the pictures to their velcro patches and he can begin again.
3. Practice before "game day". We know practice makes perfect but we are not trying to be perfect here. We are just trying to replace a undesirable behavior with something a bit more socially acceptable. As a child ages we can shape these behaviors into the "desired" behavior, the ultimate goal. Yet in the meantime, an acceptable behavior will do. But we cannot expect our children to be ready to substitute these behaviors if we do not practice them. Practice your replacement behavior when is it not needed and your student will know how to perform them when it is.
For our little guy, practicing his quiet book at home for a few minutes a day, helps prepare him for his next library trip.
4. You may need an external motivator. Remember when working with cognitively delayed children you may realize, during your practice sessions, that the replacement behavior is NOT motivating enough. However, if you couple that replacement behavior with an external motivator (E.x. Your student pulls all pictures off the velcro patches of a quite book then receives one goldfish as a snack), you may have a very compliant student on your hands.
5. Over time fade out external motivators and/or find new replacement behaviors that are closer to desired behavior. Over time you can begin to fade out your external motivator by providing them less often and inconsistently. You can also spend time creating a repertoire of various socially appropriate replacement behaviors to keep interest and motivation high. In addition, you can think about ways to shape these replacement behaviors to get the child to exhibit behavior closer and closer to the ultimately desired behavior.
For example, with our little guy who loves to scream, once we replace the screaming with quiet books and possible snacks, we may want to shape this behavior to using the quiet book independently in his own chair, rather than while being held by mom. We may eventually want to practice using these replacement behavior for longer and longer periods of time at the local library, church or restaurant. See how long we can extend the use of the replacement behaviors before the child looses attention or motivation. The longer we extend the behaviors and the more we increase the independence with which a child uses the replacement behavior, the closer we will come to the desired behavior.
So these are my basic rules for replacement behaviors. Remember it may take some trial and error before you find that one thing your student enjoys doing enough to replace an undesirable behavior. But when you do, know you have struck gold. Run with it and soon you will be seeing a whole new side of your students.
Have you spent time replacing behaviors in the past? Feel free to share your experiences below to help others.
Wednesday, October 14, 2015
The Frenzied SLPs are at it again with another great link up! This week we are talking all about your fall themed articulation ideas so don't miss out on the fun.
I have written several blogs in the past about some of my Halloween themed activities but I will try to condense some of my favorites here below.
1. Articulation Spider Web: I know this looks like a lot of work but I LOVE incorporating movement into my speech therapy sessions (especially for my little guys). This simple human sized spider web was made with some black yarn, a fence and a few articulation cards. For more information, check it out the full post here.
2. Halloween Bean Bag Toss: This is another fun movement activity AND it's SUPER simple to create! All you need is a few bean bags, index cards with numbers 1-10, a Halloween bucket and a bit of space. I like to use this activity for multiple repetitions of target sounds. Check out the full post here for some ideas on how you could use this fun activity.
3. Trick or Treat Lane Game: This is a simple board game I made a few years ago that my clients have enjoyed at this time of year. All you need to do is print it out and it's for the taking. This could be used for both articulation as well as language goals. Just have fun with it! Go to this original post and you will find it at the bottom for download.
Ok so these are just a few of my favorite activities to do during this time of year to target articulation. What are yours?
Have fun and happy talking!